Green Flags in Your Relationship
Ten questions about the two of you. Find the green flag that shows up most in your relationship.
How to play Green Flags
Play it together on one phone, or take it separately and see whether you land on the same strength. The 10 questions are about ordinary moments: a bad day, a busy week, a night with no plans. Every answer describes something healthy, so there is nothing to get wrong. Pick the one that sounds most like the two of you.
- Tap Start the quiz. Each screen shows one question and five answers.
- Read the answers out loud and agree on the one that fits you best. Tapping it brings up the next question.
- Use Back to change an answer. The bar at the top tracks your progress.
- After question 10 you see your biggest green flag: communication, trust, affection, playfulness or teamwork.
- Send the result page to your partner, or retake the quiz on your own and compare.
What your result means
Green flags are the signs that a relationship is good for the people in it. They are the opposite of red flags: small, repeated behaviors that show care, respect and safety.
This quiz sorts them into five strengths. Communication is saying what you mean and listening well. Trust is feeling safe and relying on each other. Affection is warmth, touch and kind words. Playfulness is laughing and having fun together. Teamwork is sharing the load and facing problems side by side.
Your result is the strength you picked most often. It is the thing the two of you do most naturally, the one to lean on when life gets hard. It does not mean the other four are missing. Most couples have some of each, and every answer in this quiz is a green flag.
The result is a snapshot for the two of you to talk about. It is not an assessment of your relationship, and it cannot predict where it is going.
- Communication You two talk about almost anything, and you listen as well as you speak. It is the strength that keeps small problems small.
- Trust You feel safe with each other, and you each do what you say you will. It is the strength that lets you both relax.
- Affection You show love openly, with touch, warmth and kind words. It is the strength that keeps you both feeling wanted.
- Playfulness You laugh together, tease each other and turn ordinary moments into games. It is the strength that keeps things light.
- Teamwork You share the load and face problems side by side. It is the strength that makes life together run well.
Green flags in a relationship: the 10 quiz questions
These are all 10 questions and the 50 green flags behind them, ten for each strength. Read through the list together and see how many you recognize in your own relationship. The answer you choose most often across the quiz gives you your result.
- When one of you has a bad day, what do you two usually do?
- We talk it through until it feels lighter.
- We say what's really wrong, knowing it's safe to.
- We go straight for a long hug.
- We find a way to get a laugh out of it.
- We take over each other's chores for the night.
- When you disagree about something, what do you two usually do?
- We treat it as our problem, not yours or mine.
- We stay close, a hand on a knee while we talk.
- We say what we each mean, plainly and kindly.
- We break the tension with a well timed joke.
- We assume the other one means well.
- When you are apart for a few days, what do you two usually do?
- We trade memes and silly photos.
- We feel relaxed about what the other is up to.
- We cover things at home for whoever is away.
- We call or text to share the small stuff.
- We send messages about missing each other.
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- On an evening with no plans, what do you two usually do?
- We curl up together on the sofa.
- We end up talking for hours.
- We turn it into a game or a silly contest.
- We tackle a project we've been putting off.
- We do our own things, happily, in the same room.
- When one of you has good news, what do you two usually do?
- We tell each other before anyone else.
- We feel like it's a win for both of us.
- We do a ridiculous victory dance.
- We celebrate with a kiss and a squeeze.
- We go over every detail together.
- When a big decision comes up, what do you two usually do?
- We talk through every option out loud.
- We keep it light so it feels less heavy.
- We back each other's judgment.
- We split the research and decide together.
- We remind each other we're good either way.
- When one of you makes a mistake, what do you two usually do?
- We fix it together.
- We own up fast, knowing it will be okay.
- We follow the apology with a hug.
- We talk about it without blame.
- We end up laughing about it before long.
- With friends or family around, what do you two usually do?
- We tease each other and share inside jokes.
- We hold hands or sit close.
- We host, plan and tidy up as a pair.
- We speak well of each other, in the room or not.
- We check in with a look or a quiet word.
- When life gets busy, what do you two usually do?
- We sneak in kisses between everything else.
- We divide the load so no one is buried.
- We make time for a proper catch-up.
- We count on each other to keep promises.
- We find something to laugh about anyway.
- What do other people notice about the two of you?
- We are secure with each other.
- We laugh together a lot.
- We can talk about anything.
- We are warm with each other.
- We work well as a pair.
Keeping it fun for both of you
This is a quiz about what already works, so treat it like a toast to the two of you. Play it on the sofa, read the answers out loud, and enjoy the ones that make you both say: that is so us.
If you disagree on an answer, that is the fun part. Ask each other for an example. You may find your partner notices kind things you do that you had forgotten about.
Either of you can go back on an answer or stop at any time. If a question touches a sore spot, leave it and come back another day, or not at all.
Try not to turn the result into a scorecard. Getting playfulness does not mean you are short on trust. It means laughter is the first thing you reach for. When you finish, tell each other one moment from the past month where that strength showed up. It takes two minutes and is the best part of the game.
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Green Flags FAQ
Do we need to download anything?
No. The quiz runs in your browser on any phone, tablet or computer. There is nothing to install and no account to create.
Is it private?
Yes. The quiz runs in your browser with no account, and your answers are never stored or sent anywhere. Nothing is kept once you close the page.
What happens after the result?
You get a result page for your biggest green flag that you can send to your partner to compare. You can retake the quiz any time.
What are green flags in a relationship?
Green flags are signs that a relationship is healthy, such as honest communication, trust, affection, shared laughter and working as a team. They show up in small everyday behavior more than in big gestures.
What are green flags in a guy?
He listens, keeps his word, respects a no, and is as kind to you in private as he is in front of others. He can say sorry, and he is glad when things go well for you.
What are green flags in a girl?
She says what she means, respects your time and your friendships, and backs you when it counts. She can laugh at herself, and she talks problems through instead of keeping score.
What is the difference between green flags and red flags?
Red flags are warning signs, like control, dishonesty or disrespect. Green flags are the signs that you are safe, respected and cared for.